Money, Money, Money.......

[yeokiwi]

Just to share: I have this friend who has millions in her bank a/cs but she is constantly worrying, not sure if the constant worrying affects her mental health even more or what, becos she keeps harping on the same problems.
She yearns for her children to be around her, to talk to and to keep her company. I guess when we grow old, some of us may feel kind of helpless, and insecure, so all the more we need our family members to be around, besides money.
Unfortunately, she doesn’t fully trust her children. To give you a hint: she has 2 sons but 8 daughters-in-law, all from different nationalities!

Muslim?

Anyway, she should look for a job or become a volunteer.
Depending on someone to spend away your time is not really a good plan.

[etan]

She belongs to the older generation than me.
If you have been in the company of these people, you will observe that they are quite stubborn people, but not exactly stubborn, just that they have their own thinking, (bullet cannot go through type).
Sometimes you really cannot help thinking that they think they are the Empress Dowager or some CEO! You can talk to her until the cows come home, but they are still very insistent. They want to have it their way lor!

We also mention POA to her in case one day she needs it… but no use one…

I think you correlation between money & happiness is incorrect.

I think the reason she is not happy is not because of money. Its because of her lack of planning on how to use the money and 2ndly it seems its because of family issues and trust within the family.

If she had planed carefully on dividing the money for daily living, travel , charities, bequest etc...etc... she does not have to worry as she will have money until she needs it.

No one can cheat her, as its all planned done properly.

[etan]

She is Chinese.
She only enjoys chit chatting, not interested in other things, not even mah-jong, karaoke, or any social gatherings or volunteering work.
Too much idle time on hand also jialat!
How to help her ‘open her heart’ to the outside world?
As friends, we only have limited time for her.

Muslim?

Anyway, she should look for a job or become a volunteer.
Depending on someone to spend away your time is not really a good plan.

[Temperament]

She is Chinese.
She only enjoys chit chatting, not interested in other things, not even mah-jong, karaoke, or any social gatherings or volunteering work.
Too much idle time on hand also jialat!
How to help her ‘open her heart’ to the outside world?
As friends, we only have limited time for her.

Muslim?

Anyway, she should look for a job or become a volunteer.
Depending on someone to spend away your time is not really a good plan.

i think you can start to bring her around to visit some orphanage , old-folk home, or to see how "disadvantage people" live day by day. Just visit only.
They say if money can solve problem it's not a problem.
Or money is not a problem, then it should not be a problem.
Only attitude or habit can be the problem.

[sgd]

Whenever our group of friends meet up with her, we can only lent her our sympathetic ears…

Have tried this for old people who like your friend lethargic not interested in doing anything due to deteriorated health and found to be very effective in occupying their time.

Buy her an ipod nano make sure you get separate excellent headphones, let radio keep her company and occupied. If still can see reasonably well then load some simple puzzle games put inside. Just make sure you pre-program the radio stations and to teach them how to on their own "slide" turn on/off and recharge battery.

[etan]

What you suggested makes sense to me but not this friend of mine!
We did mention to her before, but she shows no keen interest.
Yes, I have always believe that if you see other people, as you mentioned, ‘more disadvantaged than us’, we will somehow feel so much better off than them, then we will go like: wah, I so lucky...
But, I guess she just shut herself off… She just want people to know that her problem is really the biggest and most impt problem.
Yes, she can only help herself by changing her attitude or mindset, or else I fear she might sink deeper.
There is actually nothing much we can do to help her, except to keep listening to her broken record! Oh I so bad!

i think you can start to bring her around to visit some orphanage , old-folk home, or to see how "disadvantage people" live day by day. Just visit only.
They say if money can solve problem it's not a problem.
Or money is not a problem, then it should not be a problem.
Only attitude or habit can be the problem.

[etan]

Probably can try what you suggested, hope she don't turn around and scold us 'U think I 'lau hero' only make people laugh at me...wahaha!

Whenever our group of friends meet up with her, we can only lent her our sympathetic ears…

Have tried this for old people who like your friend lethargic not interested in doing anything due to deteriorated health and found to be very effective in occupying their time.

Buy her an ipod nano make sure you get separate excellent headphones, let radio keep her company and occupied. If still can see reasonably well then load some simple puzzle games put inside. Just make sure you pre-program the radio stations and to teach them how to on their own "slide" turn on/off and recharge battery.

[sgd]

Probably can try what you suggested, hope she don't turn around and scold us 'U think I 'lau hero' only make people laugh at me...wahaha!

I tried this on a 70+ yo lady an old neighbor initially there was resistance she didn't want anything to do with it but now she feels insecure without it especially before she sleeps. One time the battery totally went flat and pester me the whole night to help her.

make sure if you trying this get the headphones that produce crystal clear sound type and not the bass type.